Being a young male, I thought I would add my own thoughts to this discussion. Firstly, I have never been in a relationship. This is not because I haven’t wanted to, I have and still do. Why it is has never happened I am not really sure. Most probably because I am shy and don’t approach women (why do I have to always be the one to approach?), but at the same time I have seen friends in the past with similar ‘issues’ who have been able to find a partner. Maybe there is more to it than shyness and social anxiety.
I’ll come out and admit that because of this lack of attention and bonding with the opposite sex, resentment has developed, but I do think it has lessened quite considerably over the last few years or so, thankfully. It seems to however have been replaced with a sense of hopelessness, which probably isn’t much better.
Because of all of this I’m left feeling that something is wrong with me and that I am not good enough in so many ways. I feel this immense pressure and expectation to be handsome, intelligent, thoughtful, successful, well dressed, good sexually, and the list goes on. A part of me feels as though I will never be able to live up to all of these expectations and because of it I will never find anyone. If I look at myself from an objective perspective, I can understand why someone wouldn’t want to date me. I am a bit of a mess as things currently stand, to put it lightly. Cue the forever alone meme.
But at the same time I can’t blame someone for wanting a partner to meet certain criteria, when I am the same as well. I don’t think I could date someone who I wasn’t attracted to, so I suppose that is hypocrisy on my end. We all have expectations, which is completely reasonable, but I guess I feel as though what I have to live up to is completely beyond me, not just now, but for the rest of this incarnation.
I feel empathy for men. I know first hand how difficult it is. At the same time however I try not to let that cloud my empathy towards women and make me hateful, which it is so easily does at times.
This is a serious post but this image made me laugh:
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I’ll come out and admit that because of this lack of attention and bonding with the opposite sex, resentment has developed, but I do think it has lessened quite considerably over the last few years or so, thankfully. It seems to however have been replaced with a sense of hopelessness, which probably isn’t much better.
Because of all of this I’m left feeling that something is wrong with me and that I am not good enough in so many ways. I feel this immense pressure and expectation to be handsome, intelligent, thoughtful, successful, well dressed, good sexually, and the list goes on. A part of me feels as though I will never be able to live up to all of these expectations and because of it I will never find anyone. If I look at myself from an objective perspective, I can understand why someone wouldn’t want to date me. I am a bit of a mess as things currently stand, to put it lightly. Cue the forever alone meme.
But at the same time I can’t blame someone for wanting a partner to meet certain criteria, when I am the same as well. I don’t think I could date someone who I wasn’t attracted to, so I suppose that is hypocrisy on my end. We all have expectations, which is completely reasonable, but I guess I feel as though what I have to live up to is completely beyond me, not just now, but for the rest of this incarnation.
I feel empathy for men. I know first hand how difficult it is. At the same time however I try not to let that cloud my empathy towards women and make me hateful, which it is so easily does at times.
This is a serious post but this image made me laugh: