[split] Obtaining Animal Blood

[Jade]

I think if something someone says bothers you, they are pointing you towards a blockage/negative thoughtform of some sort. It is possible to have little or no emotional reaction to something, even if it's something in the past that has always bothered you.

Q'uo has stated that in social situations, a balanced entity has the obligation to act with no filter. Even if that means that what someone says in the moment is offensive, if a *balanced* entity is attempting to behave with love, but still steps on someone's toes, it is the one with the bruises who must look inside themselves to understand why the event was so painful. Now, if someone is actively and intentionally stepping on toes to get a rise out of people, it is less on the one who was intentionally injured to deal with the catalyst, but still the injured one must look inside to see where their beliefs put them in situations where they are being abused. Lack of self-worth? Pure habit from being abused most of your life?

We all have a choice with how we deal with catalyst in the moment. Forums are ripe with experience because it's near impossible to discern someone's tone accurately through text (though not entirely impossible...) But even if you think someone is being snarky, we have the choice in the moment to frame their words with a different meaning and tone, (as long as their words aren't entirely hateful.)

Another thing to remember is that if someone is picking on you, that they are picking at a distortion that they see within you that they know they have themselves. This is where training oneself to have the reaction of compassion is extremely valuable. We're all mirrors and how we interact with each other is a direct result of how we feel about ourselves. If we learn to love and accept ourselves we lose the negative filter.