You're fat because you eat too much

[Diana]

I have never been fat, but my weight has fluctuated during hormonal imbalances. That's the physiological explanation. A good friend of mine who is a psychic once told me that fat can be emotional protection, or in one case, an anchoring device to keep someone here in 3D. I suppose the reasons are endless.

That said, whatever the emotional or physical reasons, I agree that overeating can be part of the whole imbalance. I don't mean to say that everyone should be thin. My best friend since high school is very overweight, but it's just her and she's comfortable that way—and she is very beautiful, not only to me. But if there is an emotional imbalance, that can inspire overeating for example. So if one is not comfortable with one's weight, one way to approach the situation and correct it, is to eat less food (hopefully nutritious food for so many reasons). It can get the energy moving with intention and action, while analyzing and "fixing" the underlying emotional causes are more difficult to access. And when the weight starts coming off, then the emotions may surface to be dealt with.

I think it's important to love your body. If you are overweight and don't like being so, then you may be sending messages of disappointment or loathing to your body. I haven't had a lot of luck directly loving aspects of myself I don't like. So what I do is take some action about that particular aspect, or shift focus to something expressing gratitude. I used to obsess on every tiny indication of aging, but now I look at myself and say that I look great for my age, or for any age. I believe that and I can express this with honesty. I could go back and pick out the tiny flaws, but I simply use my will power and focus on the good stuff.

The point is to keep creating your life the way you want it to be, and if weight is an issue, I think the best way to balance that is to first not hate your body or any part of it. It is my theory that this is one reason why there is so much breast cancer—because so many women are unhappy with their breasts (if you don't believe this, just look at the stats of the number of implants). It's easier to not focus on what you don't want by doing something that is helping to change what you don't want, such as eating less if you desire a lower weight, or changing lifestyle by exercising plus eating differently.