10-25-2014, 01:34 AM
One possibility is that society tells you that your goal is to "get the girl", but first you need to buy some x, y, and z, and then maybe you'll be good enough. It's a trap created by advertising to keep men spending money. Most movies, tv shows, video games, etc, carry this form of story, where a man must go through trial and tribulation, and then, ONLY then, is the girl ready for him to take her. You must always be better, and better can be bought. You can absolutely learn to distance yourself from these beliefs - you don't have to present yourself in any specific way to be accepted.