The Ways of Love

[Learner]

To me, love and hate are not opposites. I came to believe that the opposite of love is indifference, and the opposite of hate is desire.

One implication is that we love anyone that we hate, otherwise we wouldn't a darn.

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Well, yes, Wolf, but the suffering is experience and that is the 3D life. I bring this up just so those around here don't feel guilt because they suffer. We all have been there and still are to some degree cuz Wanderers in 3Dland could easily succomb to arrogance.

According to Hermetic teachings of the Principle of Polarity, what we experience as polar opposite in scale are often the same nature but exhibited in different degrees. Love/hate, hot/cold, pain/pleasure are of such examples. Because they are expression of the same experience in different degrees, two ends of the polarity are thus transmutable, they can be transmuted mentally. Consider this principle carefully and you will find it to be true. The emotion of love and hate is a good example of the transmutation that many have experienced.

Thus I think in this density the STO is to learn “the ways of love” through love and acceptance, which would lead us to the joy of universal love; STS is to learn “the ways of love” through fear and control, which leave to anger and hate, etc. There is no right or wrong ways, but there are choices. Once one made a choice, e.g. STS/STO, they are to learn their “ways of love” of their choice. In this sense, yes, indifferent is the most undesirable, for it indicates no learning. Ra had specially mentioned that the introduction of polarity is to provide a motivation for us to learn (70.17).

I believe most at this forum has a strong inclination towards STO, therefore I share what I see as “distortions” (for lack of a better word, or maybe “surprises” is more appropriate not to make someone feel guilty, but to help them find their preferred of “ways of love”. Currently the world is under great influence of STS's ways of love through fear/control, etc., one reason STOs experience many difficulties is that we are rarely taught our preferred ways of love.

Awareness is the first step. This is also why practice mindfulness through meditation etc. is helpful. While I share what I understand to be true, it does not mean I'm free of any of the distortions I become aware of. Learning never end I'm also aware that “all roads lead to Rome”, so if what I share doesn't resonate with you, keep on looking – you will fine the path of least resistance for you.