06-19-2010, 04:50 PM
I understand 
I should have used the word remark instead of compliment. I guess my brain went shopping at that moment or something 
Forgiving someone is a very positive thing to do. So forgiving someone for a flaw that isn't there is an insult but made with an air of "I'm being positive towards you now".
So my words would become:
We all do that... I certainly know that feeling.. However, do think carefully about the message you're sending... How would you feel if I told you that I forgive you for being a total douche? You'd be insulted and rightly so. Because really you're not and I just said you are I just disguised it as a positive remark. But wearing a disguise does not change a thing.
I hope I clarified myself a bit
I should have used the word remark instead of compliment. I guess my brain went shopping at that moment or something Forgiving someone is a very positive thing to do. So forgiving someone for a flaw that isn't there is an insult but made with an air of "I'm being positive towards you now". So my words would become:
We all do that... I certainly know that feeling.. However, do think carefully about the message you're sending... How would you feel if I told you that I forgive you for being a total douche? You'd be insulted and rightly so. Because really you're not and I just said you are I just disguised it as a positive remark. But wearing a disguise does not change a thing.
I hope I clarified myself a bit