Never be afraid to ask for help

[Fang]

he assumes a1 got told something he didn't want to hear but that's not the case bc a1 wrote in his post, "I will not be believed" so he was obviously expecting what he got from "fang & co."

Wanting something to happen and expecting it to happen are two different things.

then spaced goes on to tell a1 he's being "dishonest & belittling" if he thinks that his pain is more intense. then he basically calls scottk "silly & divisive"...

There is a difference between critiquing an idea presented by a person and critiquing the person presenting such things themselves.
Spaced didn't call ScottK "silly and divisive" he called the idea of labelling actions as either STO/STS silly and divisive as well as dualistic and black/white, which that kind of thing is, it's not an attack on the person.