You sound very dedicated to spiritual balance xise..I salute you!
As for the person in your example, you can see that repression stifles the self, only to come back again and again. So I would add that expression of self is an important step towards balance. I like to think of the collective in terms of a single mind, with many different personalities that must work their problems out. The only way to come to an understanding and provide feedback to each other is to talk about our problems. In this way the total Self comes to know and experience what its thoughts and actions are doing. The creator then reveals itself with clarity. You will find that honest response to catalyst will reveal many things that people have been holding within, or that things are simply a great misunderstanding (due to people withholding their feelings). I often immediately feel a type of regret towards the emotion that was within me..regret as in "well that was silly wasted anger." But I never would have gotten there had I not released those emotions. A lot of the time the problem that was bothering me can go on doing the same thing, and I could care less.
How can we ever find harmony if we're not allowed to talk about our feelings honestly with each other? So I think eastern philosophy can cause great problems with making people feel as if they're not allowed to own their emotions or express themselves. The idea is to face catalyst head on repeatedly, and eventually you'll find yourself becoming more and more balanced, where all the little things stop bothering you. Finding love in the moment comes more naturally then. Because ultimately it's not about the other adhering to your thoughts, it's about learning to allow the infinite to express itself ("No matter what the lessons programmed, they have to do with other-selves, not with events. They have to do with giving, not receiving, for the lessons of love are of this nature both for positive and negative."). All the while we can work with the deeper aspects of balance that you describe.
As for the person in your example, you can see that repression stifles the self, only to come back again and again. So I would add that expression of self is an important step towards balance. I like to think of the collective in terms of a single mind, with many different personalities that must work their problems out. The only way to come to an understanding and provide feedback to each other is to talk about our problems. In this way the total Self comes to know and experience what its thoughts and actions are doing. The creator then reveals itself with clarity. You will find that honest response to catalyst will reveal many things that people have been holding within, or that things are simply a great misunderstanding (due to people withholding their feelings). I often immediately feel a type of regret towards the emotion that was within me..regret as in "well that was silly wasted anger." But I never would have gotten there had I not released those emotions. A lot of the time the problem that was bothering me can go on doing the same thing, and I could care less.
How can we ever find harmony if we're not allowed to talk about our feelings honestly with each other? So I think eastern philosophy can cause great problems with making people feel as if they're not allowed to own their emotions or express themselves. The idea is to face catalyst head on repeatedly, and eventually you'll find yourself becoming more and more balanced, where all the little things stop bothering you. Finding love in the moment comes more naturally then. Because ultimately it's not about the other adhering to your thoughts, it's about learning to allow the infinite to express itself ("No matter what the lessons programmed, they have to do with other-selves, not with events. They have to do with giving, not receiving, for the lessons of love are of this nature both for positive and negative."). All the while we can work with the deeper aspects of balance that you describe.
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