HOW MUCH IS TOO MUCH?????

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Love to you,
Kristy xoxoxoxoxo

wow.. you took what i said and made it a step overboard of what i was mentioning. and man he's going to hate you.

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kinda reminds me of a thing that happen at my work. behind my building there was a man who had just sat down in the shade to avoid the heat all the while scratching his head and picking his nose. my coworker saw this man and thought it was a bum and thought nothing of it. the area he was in is enclosed nobody ever walks around that area unless they need to be there. anyways the next day in the afternoon my co worker happens to be walking behind the building (out of sight, out of mind trying to not be found during working hours i would guess.)

but he sees the same guy there and well. lying on the ground same spot.. just looks like he's sleeping. well later on that day a different co worker spots the guy in the same sleeping position and decided to inform management. (well the out of sight out of mind guy is part of management.) he thinks to himself. (there is no way that guys is still there its been like 5 hours.)

anyways he goes to investigate and finds him dead behind the building. it just so happens there was a customer in the store who was a police officer and he took things from there and the story goes.

but 3 weeks after that incident. we get the wife of the man who died back there she told us that he was an alcoholic and he died from drinking too much. he was on the run from the world. apparently he took off from his AA/Rehab program and ended up behind the building.
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the story got me realizing how all STO persons have deal with them selves is to remember is to let go of the lost causes. and the wife made her amen when it came to her husband. something i never could forget.

but i just want you to understand that regardless of the decision you do. your going to have to stick to your guns. and it's going to be YOU who slowly changes. and it'll take time for you to trust your nephew again. i don't think i could lovingly throw someone out there on the blue on their own. but my take is to make it a gradual movement.

i think he'll turn out eventually. i think what your husband is doing is an awesome thing. some people need micro managing until they get the hang of it them selves. he is given decision he is not mature enough to make on his own. so being taught how to manage is the polarity he must undertake.

because before hand you had just given him support. in the decision he makes. bad or good you just supported him. enabling him, to whatever ends. however now he is given the option that decision is not his to make. but to follow. and that only well thought and consummated needs are attained.

I think this is the point of his life where he decides to put his life in the hands of the people that love him.

Buddha once said, "The mind is everything What we think, we become." it is a slow process for people to change. but it start off now.