Singles / Dating

[Melissa]

For me it was a conscious decision. I'm not interested in any sexual endeavors with anyone unless I feel ready for a partnership.

[Rusalka]

It does work. However I left out one very important point in my list....that although there is an intense reciprocal attraction, that it then not be to a level where you are both intimidated by each other because of the perceived perfection. So neither party is capable of comfortably approaching the other.


Mmmm, something exactly like this happened me a year and a half ago. We are still very attracted to each other but also terrified of each other. Why oh why didnt I think about what you said above!!!

[Fang]

I'm interested in this phenomenon called celibacy. How does this work in terms of spiritual work? Don was celibate except for when he met Carla (book V what a fascinating story) but I'm wondering why he chose this activity?

In terms of the male mind I'd say in regards to spiritual development it's the freeing oneself from instinctual desires, honing of kenjataimu or "wise man time" without being physically dependent on the process

[Jeremy]

I had this discussion with a dear member of this forum one time but does anyone else find it funny how we are all so spread out as if we weren't meant to find another of the same philosophy?

[Rusalka]

"Again I agree with with blatzadict. I'm turning 24 in two weeks and I feel a huge disconnect with guys my age. And older guys do not take me seriously. They take my looks at face value and only want one thing. I've even tried to down down play my looks. Wear loose clothing, meet guys at a bookstore instead of a bar yet it always comes down to one thing. There goes Nina with the great smile and great body ugh. Anyway I'm going to try speed dating in NYC woohoo maybe this won't be a lonely winter after all. Lol sorry for the rant. And maybe it's because I've decided not to be with a broken person anymore. I've dated a lot of broken people and our relationship usually ends because I've fixed them and helped them meet a better person because they are a better person. Ha! No more case loads for me lol

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I think this fixing pattern happens to a lot of us - happened me scores of times... I think we have a hard time putting up with disharmony and suffering so we help but on the other hand we are not "bitchy" enough to keep them on their toes. I think picking people who need help is what Ra refers to when they say that 4D make bad choices (I think higher Ds make the same kind of choices).

Besides, guys, don't you think that we might just have different, not altogether conscious, standards of relationships imprinted where we came from, which are rare or non-existent here? Deep honesty, for example. Aversion to pretense and ignoring disharmony, fake smiles and smalltalk and manipulation. Sure, earthly relationships are often built on the opposite to what perhaps is normal for us.

Hmm after reading my post I feel like I came off a bit bitchy so I must add some optimism. I know I'm an old soul I just find it challenging for someone like me to relate to anyone my age. I'm from jersey and most of the people in my surrounding areas are into a lot of superficial things.

Another difference in standards :-)

It's like no one wants to just sit and have a good conversation with out incorporating alcohol or mind numbing music lol. I know my soul mate is out there maybe I should just walking around with a t shirt that says "missing soul mate have you seen him?" That way it will trigger something in someone's mind! Does anyone want to share how they met their significant other? It will give me hope

Lots of kisses, Nina. At least know that you are perfectly normal and so are your expectations.

Best of luck!

[Matt1]

I am male age 23, open to the idea of a relationship with someone who is creative and open minded, with spiritual intent at heart. My hopes are to find someone that i can resonate with and grow together with both creatively and spiritually.

[Rusalka]

I am male age 23, open to the idea of a relationship with someone who is creative and open minded, with spiritual intent at heart. My hopes are to find someone that i can resonate with and grow together with both creatively and spiritually.

Amen. Hope we all do :-)

Best of luck!

[Plenum]

I am male age 23, open to the idea of a relationship with someone who is creative and open minded, with spiritual intent at heart. My hopes are to find someone that i can resonate with and grow together with both creatively and spiritually.

ever tried a dating website?

[Fang]

Lol to quote a great man "relationships are created and maintained to satisfy complimentary neurotic structures, once the satisfaction is not forthcoming the relationship is terminated".

[Fastidious Emanations]

ever tried a dating website?

Sarcasm?
I tried some recently and returned zero results.
Maybe I am not of that type sought there..?
Nobody even replied lol I thought I got scammed..

[Billy]

Young male who can count to 10 and has a healthy sperm count............well, somewhat healthy. Any buyers? Dont be shy.

[Plenum]

ever tried a dating website?

Sarcasm?
I tried some recently and returned zero results.
Maybe I am not of that type sought there..?
Nobody even replied lol I thought I got scammed..

what website did you use?

and no, no sarcasm intended. Serious question

[Fastidious Emanations]

lol my profile was limited, as my activities and interests are limited/boundless and I didn't try very hard so I don't want to down-rep any possibly credible e-dating services.

Just thought it was funny by some oddity.

[Rusalka]

Young male who can count to 10 and has a healthy sperm count............well, somewhat healthy. Any buyers? Dont be shy.

I need someone to make fire and sweep the backyard. Can you also count bags of peat? If so, I'm buying ;-)

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lol my profile was limited, as my activities and interests are limited/boundless and I didn't try very hard so I don't want to down-rep any possibly credible e-dating services.

Just thought it was funny by some oddity.

Yeah, I tried too, even procured 2 boyfriends as a results but it was a disaster! Zero connection. Nothing has ever made me feel so un-human. I just don't give a toss about normal human life and relationships when there is a serious Earth-saving mission to be taken care of (I'm only half joking...).

Therefore hail to the genius who started this thread. European Wanderers, come out of your holes!

[Fastidious Emanations]

Yeah, I tried too, even procured 2 boyfriends as a results but it was a disaster! Zero connection. Nothing has ever made me feel so un-human. I just don't give a toss about normal human life and relationships when there is a serious Earth-saving mission to be taken care of (I'm only half joking...).

Therefore hail to the genius who started this thread. European Wanderers, come out of your holes!

amen, ye it is so!
More snuggling, less fighting!

[Rusalka]

amen, ye it is so!
More snuggling, less fighting!
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heh, yeah!

"Just thought it was funny by some oddity."

It IS funny in a bittersweet way. Life is a cosmic joke after all...

I almost almost gave up on myself as a person who can have a fulfilling and love-filled relationship after that experience. Dating didn't work for me so I thought I was not good enough or too weird.

But the failures at dating don't happen us because we are not good enough but because we are different. Perhaps a little more naive, perhaps a little more sensitive.

And then we have a totally different value system. I just cannot get fully involved in all this mill of visiting family, little wars, changing cars and houses and boasting about how much we spent on our honeymoon. It all seems like a bad computer game that bores me to tears.

But give me someone with high integrity who wants that famed full fusion and who wants to grow as a person and whose goal is rather to open his heart with courage than to double his bank account. Someone who sees beauty in nature and the magic. Who travels to higher realms and won't be put off when I tell him about my visions. Someone who will share my need to do an odd ritual to commune with Nature and for whom lovemaking will be a way to fuse with the Creator rather than assert his male dominance and "score".

That would be a different conversation :-) It might even be FUN :-))

(now, people, stop writing exciting stuff as I have to WORK!!)

[Matt1]

Nah Plenum, i have never tried a dating website doesn't sound like my thing.

[Melissa]

heh, yeah!

"Just thought it was funny by some oddity."

It IS funny in a bittersweet way. Life is a cosmic joke after all...

I almost almost gave up on myself as a person who can have a fulfilling and love-filled relationship after that experience. Dating didn't work for me so I thought I was not good enough or too weird.

But the failures at dating don't happen us because we are not good enough but because we are different. Perhaps a little more naive, perhaps a little more sensitive.

And then we have a totally different value system. I just cannot get fully involved in all this mill of visiting family, little wars, changing cars and houses and boasting about how much we spent on our honeymoon. It all seems like a bad computer game that bores me to tears.

But give me someone with high integrity who wants that famed full fusion and who wants to grow as a person and whose goal is rather to open his heart with courage than to double his bank account. Someone who sees beauty in nature and the magic. Who travels to higher realms and won't be put off when I tell him about my visions. Someone who will share my need to do an odd ritual to commune with Nature and for whom lovemaking will be a way to fuse with the Creator rather than assert his male dominance and "score".

That would be a different conversation :-) It might even be FUN :-))

(now, people, stop writing exciting stuff as I have to WORK!!)

Amen and hallelujah! What a great post

[Fastidious Emanations]

Heres my zoosk thingy;

Signisces
Height:6'2" / 188 cm
Sex:Male
Ethnicity:White/Caucasian
Body Type:Average build
Previous Marriage:Never married
Children:No children
Education:Attended college
Religion:Spiritual
Lifestyleoesn't smoke,Doesn't drink

Story
I have such a variety of experiences that to start and end somewhere could hinder our progress towards experiencing the moment together as full as we may.
I enjoy hiking, dreaming, thinking, building, growing, loving, balancing.

Ideal Date
Exist in each other's presence for the first time.
Something that is mutually enjoyable.


lol k, right

[Rusalka]

Heres my zoosk thingy;

Signisces
Height:6'2" / 188 cm
Sex:Male
Ethnicity:White/Caucasian
Body Type:Average build
Previous Marriage:Never married
Children:No children
Education:Attended college
Religion:Spiritual
Lifestyleoesn't smoke,Doesn't drink

Story
I have such a variety of experiences that to start and end somewhere could hinder our progress towards experiencing the moment together as full as we may.
I enjoy hiking, dreaming, thinking, building, growing, loving, balancing.

Ideal Date
Exist in each other's presence for the first time.
Something that is mutually enjoyable.


lol k, right

Wow, people are getting braver!
Are you over 18? (in 3D, I mean, I suppose in your home D you might be zillions years old ;-))

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Nah Plenum, i have never tried a dating website doesn't sound like my thing.

How about giving it a go here? What do you have to lose? Surely there are enough like-minded (female) people here, you might be surprised :-)

Go on, tell us something about yourself! What's your biggest dream?

[xise]

Dating websites are pretty normal these days in much of America. Okcupid. Match. Eharmony. Plenty of Fish. Tons of them. Most people I've worked with over the past five years that were single have tried dating websites, including myself. It's definitely a great way to meet more people if you haven't had a chance to go to a lot of social events (but then there's meetup.com for that!)

[reeay]

Anyone want to create a niche dating site for cat ladies and cat daddies? lol jk

[Billy]

Any single ladies willing to fly down to melbourne for a hug? I'll pay for the return flight.

[Fastidious Emanations]

'I' will turn 23 at 4:44am

I am here to ((learn/teach)/(teach/learn))/((teach/learn)/(learn/teach)) / ... :-/

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I came to experience the One Infinite Creator lolol

[isis]

'I' will turn 23 at 4:44am

I am here to ((learn/teach)/(teach/learn))/((teach/learn)/(learn/teach)) / ... :-/

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I came to experience the One Infinite Creator lolol

HAPPY CAKE DAY TREVOR!!!!!!!

[Rusalka]

'I' will turn 23 at 4:44am

I am here to ((learn/teach)/(teach/learn))/((teach/learn)/(learn/teach)) / ... :-/

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I came to experience the One Infinite Creator lolol

HAPPY CAKE DAY TREVOR!!!!!!!

Yes, HB to you, Old Man! ;-)http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SiXCZ-Ew0b0

[Melissa]

Happy birthday!

[jdmckay]

Hi Folks,
My name is John, I'm 57 years old and I now find myself in a small city in the middle of Brazil, that is ripe with catalyst for growth. I am finding it very difficult to find a potential mate here, partly because of language and partly because of their society here. Everyone seems to be looking for some rich guy to rescue them from their plight. I am not that guy. I am: Awake, loving, forgiving, understanding, nonjudgmental, but not rich.
I really love something I saw on Facebook the other day: "Some people are so poor that all they have is money" I believe this situation I'm in is a pre- incarnation agreement that I made. I am learning the lesson well. Still I seek the sweetness of sharing life and lessons with someone.
My only requirement is that she is awake! Everything else is just details, or catalyst for more acceptance.
Love and Blessings to All
may the force be with you!
John

[Hotsizzle77]

Anyone from Connecticut, USA?

[MarjorieMorningstar]

I am brand new to Bring4th, and I found it quite by accident, as with L/L Research (I was actively searching for L/L Research a few days ago....guess I got lucky today!).
I was also thinking about how nice it would be to find someone that would be happy to talk about Law of One, UFO's, ET's, metaphysical stuff, Atlantis/Lemuria, David Wilcock (his books, and the material that he has read over the years), etc....Lo and behold! Thank you for this!
Besides the above...gardening, cooking, horses, making a house a home (hopefully someday to design and build a timber and straw bale house), and watching movies, are some of the things I like to do.
I'm 55, live NW of Philadelphia(near Valley Forge), and I don't really have a "list", except that I would appreciate someone that has done some inner work, is not into "the blame game", strong yet gentle and kind...someone I could travel to the ends of the Earth with and feel completely safe with him.
This isn't just about meeting a life partner...I am also hoping to meet friends here.....the vibe feels really good, like I just found my way home.
Please forgive me if this is posted incorrectly, I am not that great with computers...and my granddaughter spilled lemonade on my keyboard, so the keys are really sticky and this is giving me a bit of a challenge.
Blessings!
Marjorie