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Trust thread? - 3DMonkey - 04-12-2012
Do we have a thread about generic opinions about TRUST?
I want to teach my children about trust through stories.
Can you think of any good stories to teach the concept to children?
RE: Trust thread? - zenmaster - 04-12-2012
The Scorpion and the Frog
http://allaboutfrogs.org/stories/scorpion.html
RE: Trust thread? - 3DMonkey - 04-13-2012
Lol. Thanks for the input.
Yes, I would like them to know that a scorpion is a scorpion no matter what he tells you.
I am wanting more to teach a child that thinks everyone is against them how to trust that we aren't and trust that we have taken their perspective into account.
The scorpion story is great for discernment. I want to encourage them to trust the frog. (unless they are a fly).
RE: Trust thread? - zenmaster - 04-13-2012
A person needs to know themselves in order to trust. I'd think the child would need to learn ethical principles first. Those largely form the basis for judgments and reflection. Trust comes from appreciating those principles, because ethics is derived from observation (and ultimately a recognition) on how nature itself behaves.
RE: Trust thread? - Ashim - 04-13-2012
A person close to me had everything 'done' for them in childhood..
"you won't like this, that's not for you, you can't do that....etc..."
The net result was a lack of trust in self and a natural acceptance of the social mirror as being 'self'.
If you can make a descision, take that leap of faith and come out unscathed, then for me that is what builds trust.
Both in self and by default in other selves.
So many of my family in the uk are 'over protective' of their children, excluding them from the harsher or more distasteful aspects of society.
I feel this is doing them no great service
RE: Trust thread? - Ruth - 04-13-2012
3DMonkey - I always tried to help my kids find a healthy ethical balance, as zenmaster said. But also to love others and to be giving to others. One story I used was O'Henry's "Gift of the Magi." http://www.auburn.edu/~vestmon/Gift_of_the_Magi.html
But I would tell you that no matter what you TELL your children, they will learn more from what you SHOW them! I'm sure you'll be just fine.
Love and Light!
RE: Trust thread? - 3DMonkey - 04-13-2012
Thanks.
I'm just wanting a story that we can relate to together and draw from in the future. Know what I mean?
RE: Trust thread? - abstrktion - 04-13-2012
I wrote a parable if you're interested:
The Parable of the Growers
Once upon a time in a land very close to where we all live, two growers tended their orchards. Both men worked hard and cared greatly for the trees under their care.
One day, the Lord of the Valley returned from a far land and brought with him gifts for all of his people. To the growers, he gave two trees unlike anything they had ever seen.
"Take each of you one tree. Nurture it and care for it and it will bring forth fruit more sweet and filling than any fruit you have ever tasted."
"How will we know when the fruit is ripe?" asked the first grower.
"We do not know the color of this foreign fruit nor its softness when fully ripe," added the second grower.
"When you place your hand under the fruit and it drops of its own accord, it is ripe." replied the Lord of the Valley.
Both growers hurried home to plant their trees. And the trees both began to grow, nurtured and loved by the conscientious growers.
And the good growers cared for their trees, marveling at the mystery and majesty of Nature, watching in wonder as both trees stretched forth their limbs, uncurled their leaves, and finally blossomed.
At length, the trees began to bear. And each morning, the growers would place their hands under the fruit to see if it was ripe.
And each morning, the first grower would shrug when the fruit didn’t fall and then go about tending the other trees.
And each morning the second grower would become more worried. He began to spend more and more of his time caring for the one special tree, fretting that he had left something undone. So he gave it more water—or less water—or trimmed its branches—or stabilized the branches with poles--or added fertilizer—or withheld fertilizer.
Many days passed.
The orchard of the first grower came ready to harvest. He invited the people of the valley to come and savor the first fruits of the season. But the fruit of the special tree was not yet ripe. And so he waited.
The orchard of the second grower was also ready to harvest, but it was not as it had been. He had devoted so much of himself to the special tree that the others had been neglected and were unable to give as much fruit as they had in the past. This made him even more anxious about the special tree.
“When do you think the fruit will be ripe?” the second grower asked the first grower one morning.
“I cannot tell,” said the first grower.
“Do you think the Lord of the Valley tricked us? The season has passed and the fruit is not yet ripe,” the second grower stated.
“I cannot know the timing of the tree nor the intentions of the Lord of the Valley,” replied the first grower, “but I have faith in both.”
The second grower muttered under his breath and stalked away. That night he slept on a mat under his special tree.
“I have let my other trees dwindle and given everything to you,” he accused the tree.
“I had little harvest because I counted on you, believed in you, and cared for you above all other things,” he accused the tree.
The tree did not reply, but a keen observer would have seen it lean towards him in sympathy and love.
The grower tried to sleep, but sleep did not come.
He placed his hand under the fruit, but the fruit did not fall.
He cursed the day that the Lord of the Valley had given him the tree and vowed he would never again try to make the fruit fall.
But the next morning, he went again to the tree. He placed his hand under the fruit. It did not drop.
“Enough!” he cried, seizing a piece of the fruit and tearing it from the tree.
He looked at it for a moment, surprised that he now held it in his hand. Then he brought it to his mouth and attempted to take a bite.
The fruit was hard and unyielding and bitter. He threw it on the ground and spit the fruit out of his mouth.
“You are a bad tree with sour fruit! I should never have spent such care and devotion on you! You are unworthy of my attention!”
He went to get his ax.
Within a quarter hour, he had destroyed the tree and hacked it to pieces. Just then, the first grower came out to check his tree.
“What have you done?” the first grower exclaimed in horror.
“It was a bad tree with sour fruit. We have labored in vain.” the second grower snarled and stalked off.
Many more days passed.
The first grower continued to check his tree each day.
And the second grower came out to watch him check his tree each day.
And then it happened. The fruit dropped into the first grower’s hand. He tasted it. And truly it was the sweetest, most filling fruit he had ever tasted. The first grower wanted to share his joy with the second grower.
He called to him, “You must come and taste this.”
The second grower hesitated, but at last couldn’t resist. He went to the tree. The fruit dropped in his hand. He put it to his mouth. It was as the first grower had said.
“You are fortunate,” he said with some bitterness, “the Lord of the Valley gave you the good tree.”
Just then the Lord of the Valley came up behind the two men. “The two trees were grafted from the same parent tree. There was no difference between them. Both would have borne fruit of great worth, had both been allowed the time to grow and ripen in their own time.”
The second grower looked to the patch of earth where his tree had once stood. He lowered his head, "I could not wait and trust, and now all is lost."
The first grower came over and put an arm around his shoulder. “Nothing is lost forever,” he said.
“You only say that because your tree is full and ready to harvest.”
“No,” said the Lord of the Valley, “he says it because it is true. Look.”
The two growers looked where the Lord of the Valley pointed.
A small green shoot was already pushing its way up from the spot where the second grower’s tree had been.
And Time passed and at length the tree grew from shoot, to sapling, to mature tree. And the second grower watched over it carefully and with great affection while tending the rest of his orchard. For having lost it once, he cherished it all the more.
And as he watched, the tree brought forth buds, and the buds turned to blossoms, and the blossoms opened wide and grew into soft, white, round fruit.
And after he had harvested all of his other trees, he came before the special tree. “I once tried to force my will upon you. I once tore you down and broke up your lovely limbs. I have no right to your fruit, but I will ask anyway and hope you can forgive me.”
He did not know it, but the tree had never been angry; it had only sorrowed that it had been unable to give the second grower what he had so desired. It attempted to lean out a branch to the grower, who thought the branch had just been moved by the wind.
The second grower stretched forth his hand. The fruit dropped.
He looked at it for a moment, marveling in its beauty and perfection. Tears welled up in his eyes. He partook of the fruit, and truly, it was the most sweet and filling of all things he had ever tasted.
And quite suddenly the Lord of the Valley was there next to him. The second grower looked at him with gratitude and greater understanding, “It is as you had said.”
The Lord of the Valley smiled, and there was Light in his eyes, “Sometimes that which doesn’t seem to have value or goodness is only unripe, and, if given time, will grow into something more beautiful and perfect than what was initially desired. Remember to always have Faith and trust that things are as they should be.”
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven… [God] hath made every thing beautiful in his time” (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 11).
"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of which is not seen...By faith Enoch was translated that he should not see death; and was not found, because God had translated him" (Hebrews 11:1, 5).
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RE: Trust thread? - Daydreamin - 04-13-2012
(04-12-2012, 08:55 PM)zenmaster Wrote: The Scorpion and the Frog
http://allaboutfrogs.org/stories/scorpion.html
So I guess the point of your story is to not trust anyone?
RE: Trust thread? - Ruth - 04-13-2012
3DMonkey - of course, I understand. Have you considered telling them stories based on your own life experience?
Abstriktion - beautiful story!
RE: Trust thread? - 3DMonkey - 04-13-2012
(04-13-2012, 02:52 PM)Daydreamin Wrote:(04-12-2012, 08:55 PM)zenmaster Wrote: The Scorpion and the Frog
http://allaboutfrogs.org/stories/scorpion.html
So I guess the point of your story is to not trust anyone?
I like to use this saying- a leopard doesn't Change its spots... Expecially if its a panther.
RE: Trust thread? - zenmaster - 04-13-2012
(04-13-2012, 02:52 PM)Daydreamin Wrote:lol.(04-12-2012, 08:55 PM)zenmaster Wrote: The Scorpion and the Frog
http://allaboutfrogs.org/stories/scorpion.html
So I guess the point of your story is to not trust anyone?
RE: Trust thread? - Lycen - 05-30-2012
I don't know(?) right now a good story regarding trust. But my "answer" regarding trust came for now, in the following quote.
"Trust, but expect the unexpected" - The Tao of Kung Fu #10
RE: Trust thread? - Oldern - 05-30-2012
Wow, Abstrktion, that parable is amazing and well written!
RE: Trust thread? - Oceania - 05-30-2012
i think hands on experience with things of skill will bring trust in own abilities. there's another kind of trust which is trust in others. personally i don't really put much trust in others because i rely on my ability to read people intuitively and if i can't read someone i count them as untrustworthy based on that. i don't think it's wise to trust people without some sort of way to tell if they're genuine. but knowing oneself helps in that you know what sort of person you're gonna draw to yourself, to mirror you or teach you. also trust in the universe is essential according to law of attraction... i think. so yeah. i will try to find a story later but i dunno if andersen or grimm bros wrote stuff about trust.
RE: Trust thread? - Oldern - 05-30-2012
(05-30-2012, 06:49 AM)Oceania Wrote: i think hands on experience with things of skill will bring trust in own abilities. there's another kind of trust which is trust in others. personally i don't really put much trust in others because i rely on my ability to read people intuitively and if i can't read someone i count them as untrustworthy based on that. i don't think it's wise to trust people without some sort of way to tell if they're genuine. but knowing oneself helps in that you know what sort of person you're gonna draw to yourself, to mirror you or teach you. also trust in the universe is essential according to law of attraction... i think. so yeah. i will try to find a story later but i dunno if andersen or grimm bros wrote stuff about trust.
What an interesting paragraph you have here, Oceania.
I think that at a certain point in life, one will hit the brick walls of Paradoxes. Which are only brick walls if we have to solve them.
Trusting others is trusting one's own vibrations. If you enjoy yourself with your hobby, and you trust that this is a good way to live for you, you will NOT be affected by the bullies at school - and they will stop sooner or later. Or they will be scolded by those that are drawn in after seeing your serene reaction to the things. I wish I could have told that to my younger self around those times, but even with that, I managed just fine - and I was bullied, hehe. Not like it matters, anyway.
There is blind trust, there is cautiously optimistic trust, there is balance, there is lack of trust, and there is paranoia. Paranoia is assuming that people are out there who are "going to get you". Blind trust is assuming that something CANNOT happen to you. Being balanced, for me, is in the knowingness that no matter what one encounters, it will help one in a positive way, no matter what actually happens. That does not mean one rushes out to the dark at midnight, seeking trouble, of course.
Law of Attraction, at one point, needs to be trusted. Just as you said: the universe brings us vibrations that are digestable for us. That we can interact with. Therefore, worrying about anything is a vibration-lowering act, no matter what we worry about. So the only thing we can do to actually get into the "outside" (which is nothing but a reflection of our inside, hehe), is to be as balanced as joyful as possible. Not "in your face style" happy, but content and balanced. That is an inner trust there, as trust issues usually always start with lack of self-trust.
RE: Trust thread? - Monica - 05-30-2012
I don't remember any stories about trust in particular, but when my son was little, I found a lot of great recommendations in this book:
Books that Build Character
If I remember correctly, it had books listed by age/maturity level, starting with picture books for very young children. I didn't agree with all the selections, but I did read many of them to or with my son. I remember getting some powerful insights from reading the first part of the book (the 'why' of using stories to teach concepts and values).