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teaching our children with patience and love - norral - 05-22-2011
i was thinking today how important it is to both teach our children and to teach them with love and with patience. being a parent imo has been the most important thing that i have done on this planet. i always wanted to be able to see that our children would be able to take care of themselves and that goal has been accomplished. we have 4 children and 9 grandchildren.
one thing we instilled in them is that being a bully was absolutely unacceptable for us as parents. it simply was not tolerated in our household.
let me say one thing it is a lot easier to be a grandparent that it is to be a parent as u dont have the responsibility to raising them. as a grandparent i observe the necessity for patience in teaching the children. and firmness. there is nothing wrong with setting boundaries on their conduct it is an absolute necessity to do that. at the same time we have to understand that children are children, they are learning and we are their teachers . if they need to be told something 20 times in a loving manner so be it. or 100 or 1000 times. whatever it takes to get the message across. eventually one day that message will sink in. if children are raised with love eventually they will become that love that they were raised with.
we spend a lot of time with the grandchildren and i consider it an opportunity to share my values with them. i appreciate the great challenges of being a parent in this time frame. the internet and face book and cell phones and you tube have made it totally different no one is a perfect parent i know we certainly weren't. we did our best. but as i look back i dont regret the love that we invested in our childrent. they are each different but each one has to desire to help their fellow man . so the love that they received was not in vain and no love that is ever invested in any one is ever in vain.
norral
RE: teaching our children with patience and love - 3DMonkey - 05-22-2011
Lovely.
My oldest of four children is six. I have a long way to go before I am in your very lovely shoes, Norral. I have my sights set on that day, and I know the way to get there is love. Family is so important. I came from no stability in home. I am putting all my effort into creating a home base of love for my developing family. The further I move along this path, the more I see and feel the unity of family. (this is very huge realization for me if you knew my previous perspective).
Yes, I was born with one goal in mind- be a grandfather one day. A beautiful thing about 'parenting' as a grandfather is that a grandfather gets to be jolly and happy so often that a simple frown is necessary for the child to rethink their choices.
RE: teaching our children with patience and love - norral - 05-22-2011
Thats great 3dm that u have that attitude. it seems that many many of us on this board came from family situations that were difficult. the fact that u have decided not to repeat that same drama for your children that you experienced as a child is a testament to you my friend. with the attitude that you have the happiness of your children and family are assured. u my man have my admiration
norral
RE: teaching our children with patience and love - Bring4th_Austin - 05-22-2011
I don't necessarily plan on ever having children (though who knows), but I'm filled with joy and a sense of relief to hear these things you share norral. Your children and grandchildren are lucky to have you in their lives, and the change we wish to see in this world starts with what you've described here. Love breeds love, and the love you've instilled in your children will hopefully continue on for generations to come.
I think it's important to remember that children being born nowadays are, according to Q'uo, harvested 4th density beings incarnating into dual-bodies. We have more to learn from these children than they have to learn from us. Norral, it seems like you've found a good balance of parenting which protects children's free will while allowing children to function within our set society, which I believe is a great formula for change. Thank you for sharing.
Much love to you and 3DM and I commend your attitudes towards parenting. I look forward to a future where children raised by people like you are creating our collective reality.
RE: teaching our children with patience and love - norral - 05-22-2011
thanks Austin for your kind thoughts. the children today are most definitely different and have special gifts. being with the grand kids always give me a gentler perspective on life. the kids today do not like any kind of violence they get really upset by it. a better world is coming and the children are going to lead us into it.
norral
RE: teaching our children with patience and love - haqiqu - 05-23-2011
I feel the same as you, norral, and the others who posted on this thread. I tried to raise my children with humor and patience and most of the time I managed it. I was determined not to treat my children as my mother did my brother and me. I was very successful with my daughter, my son however still needs lots of help. He needed a father figure. Sad that his dad lived in the house with us, but didn't really like his son and spent very little time with him. To this day I don't know why he behaved that way.
Now I'm a grandparent and loving every minute I spend with my grandson. He is a jewel.
RE: teaching our children with patience and love - norral - 05-28-2011
dear haqiqu
this post got lost but i wanted to say that i am very happy that u were able to break the cycle and not carry forward the abuse into your own life and have it affect your children. we are all faced with that choice and many choose to perpetuate the cycle of dysfunctionality. i know one thing dear , whatever problems your son might have he could not have a better advocate than you on his side.
norral
RE: teaching our children with patience and love - Confused - 05-28-2011
(05-23-2011, 06:43 PM)haqiqu Wrote: I feel the same as you, norral, and the others who posted on this thread. I tried to raise my children with humor and patience and most of the time I managed it. I was determined not to treat my children as my mother did my brother and me. I was very successful with my daughter, my son however still needs lots of help. He needed a father figure. Sad that his dad lived in the house with us, but didn't really like his son and spent very little time with him. To this day I don't know why he behaved that way.
Now I'm a grandparent and loving every minute I spend with my grandson. He is a jewel.
Beautiful
RE: teaching our children with patience and love - john road - 05-28-2011
Yeah ...I am agree with you norral the children should be treated with love and patience by their parents...It lays a good impact on the children. children are the mot sensitive sreatures they adopt that what they see what they think or what thy listen so if we would treat them wit affection their impersonality would grow ...other wise would collapse
Black tea
RE: teaching our children with patience and love - haqiqu - 05-28-2011
(05-28-2011, 07:17 AM)norral Wrote: dear haqiqu
this post got lost but i wanted to say that i am very happy that u were able to break the cycle and not carry forward the abuse into your own life and have it affect your children. we are all faced with that choice and many choose to perpetuate the cycle of dysfunctionality. i know one thing dear , whatever problems your son might have he could not have a better advocate than you on his side.
norral
thanks norral and confused. every bit of encouragement is greatly appreciated. i can see, through my daughter, that my efforts weren't wasted. she is a wonderful mother as well as a sensitive and caring physical therapist.
your kind words bring tears to my eyes . . .
