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Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-05-2015
Note to Mods: NSFW my friends is NOT here. Totally SFW thread that I hope remains such. Everyone else please try to keep it as such (use yer best judgment lol).
I am of a very odd kind of guy so my views may seem odd or abstract...I fear. So please try not to judge me too hard here.
I think sex is, for lack of elegant words, healthy and fun and natural. I used to think I wanted sex very very often, but now I understood those cravings as red and orange ray overactivations. But even when tame and balanced...I think about sex often. This apparent trait in men makes me a perverse gross guy, similarly, this trait in girls makes them slutty.
Now I know I'm not a pervert in an inappropriate sense, I can be perverse but not in a corrupt way its usually socially inferred, in the same way, girls aren't sluts for thinking about sex often.
I've noticed sex is abused often in society. Blatantly overindulged, masking natural body-forms for unnatural perpetrated forms that are 'more attractive' (See: FAKE AS $#1%). This expands to pushing the envelope of 'acceptable' constantly. Models who look 14 posing as lingerie models, men ripped with good genes and stony bellies sport a rather large basket-case to stare at for underwear ads.
But most 18 year olds aren't model styled 'attractive', most men aren't that image. But those ideas of sexy bastardize the true nature of sex in my mind, the true humanform of sexy.
What is Sex? Its an act of...what? Body? Mind? Spirit?
If I may pull from experience without sounding arrogant. Sex for me, and no I dont know sex all that well, was a very fulfilling process. I actually can't manage without my mind being 'in the act' as well. For some girls I couldn't get into the act because it felt wrong. For my last ex, being in love with the person made sex second nature to me. It was like, if we're not having sex once a day for no reason there's a disconnect it feels like, but worse than that is when the atmosphere between us two didn't align anymore, sex was no longer fulfilling.
So for me, I need an emotional/mental security with the person. I can't just throw off my clothes and go for it (even though I've tried to be that way as socially told I'm supposed to by other duudes). And in that way I wonder about sex, What its like for people who just throw it around and about to whoever they want to sleep with.
Sex in today's world is very detached and purely physical. Sex to me is on a sense spiritual. But so pleasureable its fun to focus on for extended times and more fun to experiment in, and in a way, that fun, and experimentation is a phase I never had. I had Love for a while and that didn't last. Sex ensued and it wasn't the same.
But overall there is a difference, I don't know of if its just me or not hence one reason for the thread.
To me proper sex isn't about reaching orgasm, its about getting the other person to feel more than accepted, but fulfilled inwardly, to provide them pleasure and ease them, to make everything worthwhile. Sex wasn't about just pleasure, it was an act to empower the other like I am. Spiritually speaking its what I figure Ra called Fusion, imbuing your energy as lovingly into the other as you possibly could. Whether it means going for a good rhythm or just getting rough with the motions or more controlled or what not, it all loses value and energy when you remove the mind, remove the care, remove the fulfillment.
In terms of chakra, you could say I notice a lot of purely red, orange, and yellow activations and transfers, but not so much green, I even notice blue and indigo activations but without green they usually require some form of restraining or a different configuration of sexual act (fetishy stuff comes to mind).
When the red ray is the main activation or sole chakra going, sex is bland and straight forward. Orange ray imbues the act with personal power, yellow ray accepts the overall placement of the act in its atmosphere (hook up, love, greed, lust), green ray actually fulfills, provides What makes to me, a perfect experience. Blue ray might be vocalizations but I regard its presence in bodily honesty too. Indigo ray seems to be the overall director, if you can do sex consciously and very awarely vs just going at it mindlessly, you have the power to build a song of energy exchanges with the other.
I leave how and the mental imagery to you all for guideline reasons
I actually think guides help the process overall too if you both allow them too, sort of calling in the Pink Ray of spiritual family guidance and letting your angels and ascended masters create sparks between you two.
-Squirms- Sounds fun to me >~>
I actually enjoy talking causally about sex and learning about it, but this spiritual side of sex is just exciting to discuss and explore in conversation.
If we can avoid overdetailed nsfw tier commentary, I think this thread will be good on the guidelines.
Exploring how society views and explores sex, as well as the act of imbuing intercourse with spiritual awareness are the topics as a final' funnel' sentence to direct us into a certain flow.
Thoughts are welcome!
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Minyatur - 11-05-2015
If you look at things from a One is All perspective, sex is kinda disturbing or either very funny... depending on how you look at it.
The OIC was one lonely thing.
Edit : Well I guess that is more about many-ness altogether than sex.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-05-2015
Considering masturbation is normal, self-sex might just be natural in an All-is-one Way.
But Considering its so defined in Creation. I think the Creator designed it for itself at a base level of sorts.
Gotta ask that Essential Why/How. Why does sex cause energy transfers? Obviously it didn't just happen to coincidentally be that way.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Jade - 11-05-2015
The combination of the veil and mated pairings give us a lot of sexual catalyst.
Thank you for making the thread, I wish I had more to say as I too often desire to discuss the spiritual side of sex. I've been with my husband 7 years now and I feel a lot of power in that realm... but I'm not sure what to do with it! I try to remember with each orgasm to open myself up and anchor the energy as a service to all. I do think there is some validity to vocalizations having their origination in the blue ray - sometimes I am extremely loud and I'm not sure how else to direct this energy other than a guttural yell?
As far as why, I would speculate/intuit that the way we use sexual energy transfers now is a byproduct of polarization - the male has one energy, the female has another, and the mutual discharge in green ray (orgasm) allows each to give to the other what they are lacking. (Men usually lack the "spiritual/emotional" energy, females usually lack the "physical" energy) Ra says it's magnetic. I'm sure we seek those who have what we need.
I came across this quote I want to share, it's one I like a lot. It's about how if both entities are vibrating in at least green ray, and one moves higher up the chakra ladder, they are able to offer that energy to their partner.
Quote:Ra: I am Ra. With the green-ray transfer of energy you now come to the great turning point sexually as well as in each other mode of experience. The green ray may then be turned outward, the entity then giving rather than receiving. The first giving beyond green ray is the giving of acceptance or freedom, thus allowing the recipient of blue-ray energy transfer the opportunity for a feeling of being accepted, thus freeing that other-self to express itself to the giver of this ray. It will be noted that once green-ray energy transfer has been achieved by two mind/body/spirits in mating, the further rays are available without both entities having the necessity to progress equally. Thus a blue-ray vibrating entity or indigo-ray vibrating entity whose other ray vibrations are clear may share that energy with the green-ray other-self, thus acting as catalyst for the continued learn/teaching of the other-self. Until an other-self reaches green ray, such energy transfers through the rays is not possible.
In this quote, Ra confirms that sexual energy transfers are strictly a side effect of polarity.
Quote:Ra: I am Ra. The rays, as you understand them, have such a different meaning in the next density and the next and so forth that we must answer your query in the negative. Energy transfers only take place in fourth, fifth, and sixth densities. These are still of what you would call a polarized nature. However, due to the ability of these densities to see the harmonies between individuals, these entities choose those mates which are harmonious, thus allowing constant transfer of energy and the propagation of the body complexes which each density uses. The process is different in the fifth and the sixth density than you may understand it. However, it is in these cases still based upon polarity. In the seventh density there is not this particular energy exchange as it is unnecessary to recycle body complexes.
I also like this one
Quote:72.16 Questioner: Is it possible to over-energize the instrument with sexual energy transfers?
Ra: I am Ra. No.
Also TPP, the notion that you had to have sex with your gf every day to be close seems more like a blockage. Insatiability is indicative of a blockage. Is it possible that she was operating in slightly more regular green-ray energies, and you had an addiction to their input?
Quote:In third* ray there are two possibilities. Firstly, if both vibrate in third* ray there will be a mutually strengthening energy transfer, the negative or female, as you call it, drawing the energy from the roots of the beingness up through the energy centers, thus being physically revitalized; the positive, or male polarity, as it is deemed in your illusion, finding in this energy transfer an inspiration which satisfies and feeds the spirit portion of the body/mind/spirit complex, thus both being polarized and releasing the excess of that which each has in abundance by nature of intelligent energy, that is, negative/intuitive, positive/physical energies as you may call them; this energy transfer being blocked only if one or both entities have fear of possession, of being possessed, of desiring possession or desiring being possessed.
* This should be fourth or green. Don and Ra corrected the error in session 32.
The other green-ray possibility is that of one entity offering green-ray energy, the other not offering energy of the universal love energy, this resulting in a blockage of energy for the one not green ray thus increasing frustration or appetite; the green-ray being polarizing slightly towards service to others.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-05-2015
I think it was just how I wanted to express my love to her Jade, give her pleasure. If she's not in the mood that IS a valid reason not to have sex, because there are times I'm not in the mood. Despite that, I've never said no to sex to any of my girlfriends. It was actually more in the relationship I'm thinking of...her who wanted sex daily... I had days where I had to lay under her and let her do all the moving because I was too sore to...
I guess i got imprinted with that, since she was my first major experience in a relationship with sex.
I was dipping into blue ray back then so I honestly don't know the energetic dynamics between us, my bias is too painted of her right now to decipher that. How is wanting to please the person I love every day an insatiable thing? Its not much different from how I love my job so much I can manage 60 hour weeks (otherwise impossible). I'm not that...resilient,my libido is finite. My ex brought me to that realization when sex began hurting.
It was rough, no pun, seriously, I never said no, even when I wasn't in the mood I switched over just for her. I mean, honestly I would've married her, so I'm sure we had a good energetic connection going on but maybe she was the one addicted to me. I honestly don't know.
I think you can separate sex and polarity. Why does polarity then imbue sex with both shades (not just 50...)? Creator made sex operate this way, it's Its own Construct while attached to Polarity also still its own Being.
Sometimes people here differentiate some things as separate but then say contradictory statements that imply everything isn't separate. There needs to be a unified understanding even metaphysical of the fact all is one but All is STILL All. A tree's a tree, a ball a ball, car's a car, zipper's zipper, Sterling Archer and the Chocolate Factory, all has an eternal construct as its base. An individual being who is still interconnected on various faceted levels.
Sex as an existence is as well. You could say it was a form of sacred worship to me... I wanted to make her happy. I honestly didn't know how else to do that Except follow her lead. I wasn't very relationship smart back then...
I also believe green ray transfers occur in more than just orgasm. Similarly how blue ray transfers occur various ways from how one kisses to uses to their mouth, noises they make, motions their body's automatically produce.
Green ray could be the contact of body to body, systems overlapping, merging at the chest to literally make two be one.
...Not too informed on other forms of green ray transfer outside of that and orgasm though.
Not to sound dirty, try discharging that energy through phrases or even redirecting it back to the hubby by informing or enlightening him on what is and isn't working. Or if its just plain good try saying a few sexy things he might want to hear.
There's a lot of ways to direct that energy, I'm of the enjoyment of sexy talk and honest feedback.
I'm not too vocal, unless I'm faking pleasure or just...exercising with the motions...
(I'm sleepy now, Sorry if this sounds confrontational!) I think spiritual sex and such should be discussed more openly in general.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Jade - 11-05-2015
I agree about open discussion!
So SHE was the one who was insatiably addicted to your green ray, perhaps? I meant to imply that was a possibility too but it sounded like you were all in for the every day sex. Not that there is anything wrong with every day sex! But there is likely something wrong with not feeling like you are getting enough sex when you are getting it every day, but again, what you describe in more details hints that the blockage could have been on her part.
As far as sex being interlinked with polarity, I didn't mean, interlinked with STS and STO (though it is), but more, interlinked with any potential difference between two beings. That's why it exists until 7th density when everything merges - as long as there is a separation between entities, links can be made through energy transfers, like sex, to decrease the potential difference between the two and unify them vibrationally. That's how I see it.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Jeremy - 11-05-2015
My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 1.5 years and we still make love at least once a day. Sometimes 2 or 3 times in a day if we are both off. The only times we don't is when we are both too drunk to lol.
Having said that, it's definitely not to just "get off" so to speak. Its an extremely invigorating act of energy exchange benefiting her more than me in terms of replenishment but bringing me more joy knowing that I was able to supply such energy. Seeing the joy and ecstacy in her eyes along feeling her vibrating from head to know could be all that I experience and it would be ok for that moment. She of course would have nothing of that and makes sure I also reach fulfillment by whatever means necessary.
During those moments when I visualize exactly what I'm doing during either oral, vaginal, or anal intercourse, focus all of my intention and love into that single area and put all my love and energy into for the sole purpose of her and her alone, she immediately takes upon a higher level of passion, feeling, and intensity of said feelings.
She's said things like we suddenly appeared as if we were floating in mid air circling each other. Other times its like one giant white ball that we've been swallowed in. Other times being in a whirlwind spinning so fast she had to stop for a minute.
Knowing that we both provide this service of energy exchange to each, only reinforces our urges to further fulfill each other so that we can continue to evolve as one
Edit: Oh I forgot to mention that when I was with my ex of 12 years, I never considered sex anything more than just getting off. Once we split and I tried to hook up with women, I realized how much I missed an actual connection with the person. I think in the few times I hooked up with women, I never actually reached orgasm. The ones I dated were a but easier but still much more difficult to attain since there wasn't much of a connection.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Adonai One - 11-06-2015
Sex is not a distinct part of my life. I enjoy every activity I do with my wife and, simply said, we attempt to make every endeavor as valuable as many value the sexual act.
For me to put sex on a single pedestal, would be akin to putting breathing or eating on a single pedestal. I will put every thing on a pedestal instead.
I balance it all into unity. Diverse mental, bodily and spiritual nutrition anyone?
I love sex but there is much that defines sex as a need that is not only sex. I make every bit of my life awesome.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-06-2015
Why elevate it to a pedestal? What's wrong with how things are Here and Now with things like sex and breathing?
I'd rather bring it down to a mundane level, everything is already sacred to me. Its the source of my woes as I watch Earth die.
I used to want a wife. Now I don't know if I even want to ever be in a relationship. I'm apparently a not good human being, if the LoA and my typical daily life has anything to say about that. I'm pretty isolated and lonely, I haven't seen one friend of mine in 2 weeks now so I can't say I really look forward to making connections as I'm tired of them getting severed. Would rather just provide nothing for me/life/OIC to use for catalyst now a days.
Not until the society I'm in gets better at least...
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Jade - 11-06-2015
I wanted to make a point about the "constant orgasm" that one experiences with a mated partner that shares green-ray energy, but Adonai seems to have summmed that one up well.
As far as sex every day, that's a pretty great and intense commitment, Jeremy! My husband and I usually give it a go 2-3 times per week. I've never had a high sex drive (or even really a low one) and when we do make love, I have orgasms in the double digits which I feel usually satisfies me for a while. I love sex with my husband but I do often see it as a utility thing for health for sure.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Adonai One - 11-07-2015
(11-06-2015, 07:07 AM)The_Tired_Philosopher Wrote: Why elevate it to a pedestal? What's wrong with how things are Here and Now with things like sex and breathing?
I'd rather bring it down to a mundane level, everything is already sacred to me. Its the source of my woes as I watch Earth die.
I used to want a wife. Now I don't know if I even want to ever be in a relationship. I'm apparently a not good human being, if the LoA and my typical daily life has anything to say about that. I'm pretty isolated and lonely, I haven't seen one friend of mine in 2 weeks now so I can't say I really look forward to making connections as I'm tired of them getting severed. Would rather just provide nothing for me/life/OIC to use for catalyst now a days.
Not until the society I'm in gets better at least...
I'd recommend trying to make a meeting with a person at least once a week to build a strong bond. More than this and you will find yourself with only an acquaintance in truth but perhaps not nominally.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-07-2015
The problem is me it'd seem. Name a reason along the lines of unattractive, lives with parent, is too quiet, weird, socially awkward.
I like to just call myself Unique but my kindness for myself and others doesn't exist in many others I've been around. Now I'm so seldom socially around others it doesn't matter. May as well list myself a loner and see who will venture into my little sphere of reality that is myself.
Cause even just from watching from here, I am very different even in regards to Wanderer's. I'm not of the usual sorts or maybe I am and just aren't this time around. I don't know but my observations tell me something is wrong with me or different enough about me to cause me isolation through myself and others. I honestly don't know. I gave up trying to figure it all out.
I just do each day as it comes. Or I try to. Hence why some days I'll make no threads and other days I'll throw out 2-4 threads. Sometimes I'll post 5 times despite the silence here.
My only real working theory is something to do with Green Ray, Yellow Ray, and Indigo Ray. But I think I'll stop pondering and meditating on that too.
Just tired now a days. Really don't have the energy to Think so much anymore either -_-
Its easier just discussing things here.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Adonai One - 11-07-2015
Be selective. Find an individual you can stand the most. Accept, unconditionally love your current preferences in socialization and find one that does the same. You will find as you and this individual accept each other in greater amounts, it will be more easy for you to accept others that you did not stand as much before, as you have come to accept these things in your initial setting over time. That's assuming you are choosing to be more considerate and aware in the relationship.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-07-2015
Heh.
Listen. These traits you ask of me to be are already I.
It is others who reject me typically. Go tell them to be such ways. I already am. I have and typically try to be in social situations. They seldom work out for me. Usually a friend doesn't invite me to a group thing or everyone is constantly unavailable as am I despite my attempts to make time for them. The same doesn't happen in return.
Example, friend of mine wanted to hang out this week, except she's only available after 10pm and I work all week 10pm to 6am. Try to reschedule for next week. Never heard anything back.
Most recent ex (not the one I mentioned on my OP or in my post, that's my baby mama ex) actually mirrored me to try and make me stay with her, when I waited for her to contact me first for once I heard nothing for 10 days, I thought she left me cause I was weird so I get a hold of her. She says I disappeared and was like every other guy tried to explain myself and she says its all my fault, I'm the problem and such.
Seems to be a theme in my life. Girls projecting their issues unto me then flipping out on me when they get quickly drawn out by my presence, letting them be themselves they judge me through themselves. The only exception was my baby mama ex, I was too immature for her at the time in terms of handling a family.
I don't actually know what family is so it was rough when she got pregnant but I got over it, I apologized and tried to be there for her but I was scared and didn't have any idea how. And she had already fallen out of love with me by that point.
Actually, even though it was 3 years ago, I would still get back with her and try it ALL over again. But that won't happen. Ever. So I move forward. But this is getting into non-spiritual relationships. I've never had a spiritually imbued one.
I don't even know if I have friendships in person right now -_-
But I know I've had a spiritual level of sex. But I also just enjoy intimate sex like crazy (or as Jade pointed out..maybe I got imprinted to Love intimate sex a lot). I do not know the why's. I just miss the things that brought such questions in those realms at all.
Much more preferable to wondering about the OIC's reasons for desiring the more twisted things of 3D life... those Why's suck to think about ~
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Adonai One - 11-07-2015
Listen. If you embody my words, you will find a friend and/or partner that you don't have to ask anything, neither having anything to ask of you.
If it is others who reject you, then they were not friends for you at this time. Let every person you meet in a day reject you. In the next, you will know where and who to look for, the rejection left in its rightful place as shadow the accepting ones left among the light.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-07-2015
Adonai. When I find the people to be such with I shall.
For now. They don't exist as far as my perception can see those around me. I get upset with being judged, but in that I try not to in return, the whole Golden Rule Concept (what-a-concept).
Oh and I'm honest to a painful point in areas.
Naw, no I don't think its something to understand. I just need to accept I'm alone this time around. Maybe that'll change when I do. That seems to be the general operation of reality, constant change of accepted experiences.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Adonai One - 11-07-2015
If you ever happen to be in Canada, you may find such a person in me.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-07-2015
I actually do not differentiate shadow and light. My dark shadow self IS ME.
My Ego IS ME. Its not a transcending thing, its an acceptance. Its why I accept others despite the pain they cause me.
I can't stand when people telle to trash my ego or let it go. That's not possible, I am my Ego, its not something to let go, its something to embrace and love, not reject and run from. Its my godly self as much as my soul. When It screams in pain, that's me.
When it loves compassionately, that's me. And when I try to 'overcome' myself, I'm just trying to be something I'm not, and that too is me.
My reality is a fickle one of confusion. There is no self to overcome, just an I to find. I have found myself. That does not mean I accept it all. Its why I dropped the Law of One as a Philosophy. It basically says I am all things, including the horror's of 3D. My ego can say, 'No, I refuse to be that.' My conscious says, 'All is Well' but my ego is not so easily satiated. It wants to know, its curious and alive and serious. Wants to understand despite knowing it Can't.
Wants the attention when it craves solitude, and wants the answers when it knows it Can't have any.
My ego is one to be of malcontent upon a happy disposition of a misanthrope. Fearful of what people can do. Aware of many horrors. But in a generally nonhorrific life with a few moments...
May I ask, what happens if I do what you say and nothing changes? What happens to me?
I get angry. I feel lied to enough as is by the Confederation but still I listen and wait and stick around. I don't want to start feeling those ways towards flesh and blood I can interact with directly. I just want the truth or the next best thing, answers.
But non exist here. Weird how I'd do this to myself. Maybe I'm exploring Anger of Higher Self, I don't know. And its I who has to find some way to use my precious time reaching out when I have so little emotionally calm times anymore. I have to meditate through noise and mental thoughts and emotional feelings. Its difficult but if I don't then I never will.
I don't have the calm time, I've the time but I'm not calm often lately. Highly emotional. And if I'm angry, I just can't meditate. I'm different, maybe I'm weak or stupid. I don't know, maybe I'm a punk junkie. I really don't know. I just want to be Godly Human and share enjoyment with others. Sadly my life looks like it'll be if this pattern continues, a malcontent misanthrope loner followed by a timely mid-life crisis suicide in my late 30's to mid 40's.
So, here's to not that road, cause I really want to be with someone and practice and study and experiment spiritual energy transfers, not just sexual ones.
I think the closest person to me is Parsons or Diana. I'm in Arizona, within The Valley of the Sun Hell Valley somewhere in the hottest circle of Hell (though I think its freezing over cause its finally cool, here we come frost burn!)
I used to want to move to Canada, now I think maybe a little Island might be better. I do love the beach...
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Adonai One - 11-07-2015
>May I ask, what happens if I do what you say and nothing changes? What happens to me?
I ask you to contemplate the inevitability over the course of your entire life of choosing to deal with people that want nothing of you, while you wanting nothing of them.
It is equivalent to drinking water out of a city sewage system.
Why not drink clean water?
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-07-2015
Tell that to kids in Africa.
Why not drink clean water? It couldn't be an absence of clean water available, no actually they choose to slowly die of dirty water contamination until they themselves feel contaminated.
And while I'm not African and have access to albeit fluoridated radiated water, it is still cleaner.
Yes I am tired of people being mean, of the dirtiness of water. But I still drink grateful to be able to interact with anyone. Doesn't mean they have the patience or kindness I do of them of me.
You could equate it to...I know there is probably people for me around me. But it seems They did not venture into the darkness yet, otherwise I'm right here, did we pass each other in the dark? Is that person a coworker and I'm just no longer vibratorily equivocal to them? Are they someone I've already met or even talked to and I just don't know it??
-Shrugs- but I like to think in time, soon or not. I don't have control of that. I can't make people like like who I am, I can only be myself.
And myself right now just wants it all to stop, be gone, and to be left alone. Because whenever I'm not alone, I want to be alone because it hurts watching people hurt others and themselves.
Just who I am. If I knew how Empaths handle a rational mind filled with logic imbuing and magnifying emotions I'd probably acquire a handle on my emotional self but so far I haven't. Meditation is the closest help, and in the beginning it magnifies my emotions even more! From x2 to x5. Its what I really hope is going on right now cause if this lasts I really am worried about what choices I'll make.
Why do people think someone just walks into your life and a connection is made? No one ever walked into my life, someone else always brought in more people. My baby mama was brought in by a friend of a friend, my first ex introduced to me in middle school, my second ex introduced by my first, third by my second. My best friend (who I haven't seen in 2 weeks) i met on a school bus...
He's the only one who fits this description of reality. Everything else my whole life has been through others, my...4th ex was introduced to me through friends and that lasted a whole 2 weeks. 6th ex is my now ex bestfriend (who stopped dating me cause I wasn't attractive enough) amongst other things that came up. My 5th ex is the only person I ever had a real sexual life with besides the fwb I lost my virginity to at 19.
My life isn't like most, I'm not like most. Maybe the rules are subtly different for me or maybe I am just messed up.
I. Don't. Knoooww.
You said somewhere in a thread a while ago that you found your wife through B4. I want to find my wife at a park or something random. Where we just bump into each other and the rest would be history.
A history that makes the PreHistory of it feel worth it. -shrug-
(Was pleasantly surprised at the >quote, was sad the text wasn't green)
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-07-2015
(And since I'm derailing my own thread, if anyone has commentary or thoughts on the OP please still speak/type your mind.
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RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Adonai One - 11-08-2015
>You said somewhere in a thread a while ago that you found your wife through B4. I want to find my wife at a park or something random. Where we just bump into each other and the rest would be history.
Then sit at a park as much as possible and wait.
I married my wife through here because she was willing to sit and discuss things with me indefinitely. I had to spend a lot of time here for that to happen.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-08-2015
I just assume every encounter of a kind is a chance for a beautiful friendship.
I also assume the dark potential of people.
An indefinite discussion does sound nice actually. I'm glad for you
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Adonai One - 11-08-2015
(11-08-2015, 07:32 AM)The_Tired_Philosopher Wrote: I just assume every encounter of a kind is a chance for a beautiful friendship.
I also assume the dark potential of people.
An indefinite discussion does sound nice actually. I'm glad for you
The majority of this realm lies in darkness. Most here have no interest to live beyond a unconscious, distracted, routine living; Infringing on this routine will lead to either plentiful, dramatic catharsis or a fragmenting of the relationship as one refuses to see.
There is not simply a dark potential but a dark present, not that this world lives in its absolutely but has consistently refused to choose to either see or not see the light.
If you seek sight that is filled with brilliant light, joy, beauty, truth, find an individual that can partake in such a meal. If you like good food, why would you spend time with a person that can only share meals with you that are unpalatable?
As I have learned, you must learn to redouble your efforts towards light by sharing with those that effort towards the same, else you will have to compensate and handicap yourself for students that have no interest in learning.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-08-2015
That's a pretty good way of seeing it.
I meant I assume potential because I don't actually know their darkness, only that it exists.
Its the negative way of saying I know they're a being of light, who have put on earthly bodies and acquired a shadow with that body. I assume such is true, wary but open.
Do you regard everyone a student?
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Adonai One - 11-08-2015
The vessel, body, flesh that enables our experience turns us all into students of the physics of our creation. Being aware of this makes a teacher.
The fact of interacting with somebody you or they consider "other" and not being aware of the student-teacher relationship at hand is to be potentially highly irresponsible, as teaching occurs by the very glancing of another to another; This teaching has much consequence, honor that must be met with its respective duty.
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The duality of teacher and student firmly resolves once the concept of "other" is eradicated into either the radiant or absorbent sense of all being the self, every being a thought held firmly in your mind as your implicit, direct, immediate concern; Every call answered in the most efficacious way possible in Service-to-All.
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-08-2015
Cool, where's the textbook on teach/learning learn/teaching?
I think an open interaction might aid in such a view. I'm not typically in such instances, I don't like pushing my views or beliefs of the Laws of Reality on others who don't care. I further dislike wasting my time on teachers and students who don't care.
I generally dislike apathy, probably cause I try so hard to be it and can't... In fact hating something is just loving it without understanding, in my opinion, its why I have a love/hate relationship with the Universe. That may JUST be how I experience hate though.
I imagine a positive or growth capable learn/teach situation in the 'sexytiem' bedroom would be quite the experience too actually.
Have you ever taught a love partner anything spiritually useful through such energetic exchanges? ...If that's not too personal to ask?
RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - Adonai One - 11-08-2015
My wife and I will directly exchange emotions and beliefs in a rapid manner which one could paranormally correlate to what occurs in our bedroom.
My wife's will towards a distortion of freedom in her life through her career has increased; But I continue to advance the context of my base respect of meditation, relaxation, dedication to self-contemplation being essential to maintain such will that seeks only one's inherent nature and balance. Rather, the essential teaching of our couple is freedom is inherent, control unnecessary.
However, promises of payment, debt, redemption called "money" institute a catalyst of constant temptation towards control and its illusions. She seeks a financial certainty that only clinging to and controlling illusory material can provide. Releasing this certainty will require immersing oneself in the uncertainty of unconditional partnerships, fiscal and social, for balance. So thus I provide many, many friends of a non-financial nature as catalyst.
She does well in any case. She institutes a basic sense of internal and external consciousness that is not easily negotiated against so thus my teaching is highly unnecessary. She called me into her life so I only reflect what she has already within herself.
- - earth_spirit - 11-08-2015
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RE: Sex in Today's Life and Spiritual Sex - The_Tired_Philosopher - 11-08-2015
Ironically my ex was multiorgasmic and had a higher sex drive than me. I think she got off easier than I ever would. And as far as I knew there was some people like that. Your views aren't wrong, they just generalize a bit much for some people's tastes I guess. I see your points though.
I understand not being in the mood, it just means there's something up and I'm not feeling up to this right now for various reasons (of which I figure were/are valid).
I personally think the girl should just be honest and tell him she's not into him. If the guy's oblivious he might never get the hint. I also Think this of males.
By significant, do you mean 50%+? Where do you figure such or how do you figure?
Do you know what biological urges women have of men in relationships?